“There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth;
not going all the way, and not starting” – Buddha
Over the course of the past twelve months, a lot of things have changed. One of these was learning to accept the mistakes I made rather than dwell on them. Why? Well I fully buy into the theory that mistakes are what help us grow. By learning from them we know what not to do in the future. In turn, we develop and improve ourselves.
For example, I made a mistake in deciding to cut myself off from everyone I knew back home when I first went to University – even though at the time I felt it necessary – and it’s something that I truly regret [to anyone from MK that is reading this and thought I treated them badly, I apologise]. The result? I am now much more appreciative of the friends I have.
“If I had to live my life again, I’d make the same mistakes, only sooner” – Tallulah Bankhead
Thing is, every now and then something will crop up in the back of my mind. Something like “I regret not going to the party” or “Why didn’t I take a chance when it was available” and even them simple “I should have said yes”. For ages I considered these mistakes but I didn’t learn anything from them, not really. These regrets are my missed opportunities, and once you miss an opportunity you can’t have it again. They are a one time thing.
Since leaving University I have tried to become more of a ‘yes man’, to make the most of what is given to me. This hasn’t always played out the way I have wanted and it can be said that some of these opportunities have ended up being mistakes. Yet I’d still rather have those than anymore missed opportunities. My mistakes are part of me. For better, or fore worse, they have helped make me the man I am today; and I am pretty pleased with who I have become.
“If you’re not making mistakes, then you’re not doing anything.
I’m positive that a doer makes mistakes” – John Wooden
I guess what I’m trying to say in this ridiculous, needless, long-winded post is don’t regret your mistakes. Embrace and accept them. Make the most of the opportunities that come your way and don’t let them pass you by. You never know how much they may haunt you in years to come.
“A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable,
but more useful than a life spent doing nothing” – George Bernard Shaw